Mothers Day 2024

I have a Facebook account, and Facebook has a function that produces a list of the things you posted on Facebook on that particular day in previous years. Today Facebook reminded that I'd posted the following a number of year ago while my mother was still alive, but suffering from dementia:

"for those of you not celebrating mothers day for whatever reasons, have as good a day as you can."

I've already gone into some detail about the relationship I had with my mother in a post titled "Narcissism". The reality was that I really never celebrated Mothers Day as much as simply observed it by doing the bare minimum to claim that I'd fulfilled any inherent obligation expected of a loving respectful son - two adjectives I wouldn't use to define the ambivalence I've struggled with most of my life.
I mourn that I never had a chance to have a meaningful conversation with my mother that would have helped me gain some sense of closure in terms of our fractured relationship. Now I also mourn that we didn't any sort of conversation that might have helped her ease her sense of shame. But it's tempered with trust in the promise from the Scriptures: "He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’[b] or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away." such that when my mother left this mortal plane she is now no longer suffering or mourning and for all I know is flying around doing barrel rolls and loop de loops.

*This* I can celebrate.

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